I was chatting with my dear friend yesterday (let’s call her Totes) about friendship. We were discussing the importance of offering support whenever it was needed. Of course, support is a given when it comes to friendship. But what got me thinking was this; can you ever ask for TOO much support? Is it possible to overstep the boundaries of it?
I’m sure most of us have friends who may not be too interested in writing. Or books. Should we expect the same level of support from them that we get from our scrivener mates? Everybody can relate to this argument. Somewhere out there at some point in time we have all been victims of an unsupportive friend. And I am sure that WE have also vicitmised a friend in this way. Afterall, no one is perfect. But what if you were alerted to the situation? What if you were told that you were far from supportive? What then? Without a doubt you would apologise. Try and make good. Wouldn’t you? If you were the one asking for support would you expect your friend to wave the white flag of surrender? Of course.
This is not to say that it is alright to keep ringing your not-partial-to-writing friend at any given moment (and any given hour) to whine about an annoying character that you can’t get right. There are boundaries for this and it is important to respect that. But advice/support for writing is just like any other form of support. You go to your friends for relationship advice. Or when things aren’t going well at work.
The world of blogging has opened up a plethora of doors. It’s a wonderful way to express yourself, to motivate and to inspire. As much as we love our followers, and the people we follow, nothing gets us giddier than the support of a friend. The words, the actions – it’s all good.
So if you believe that fruits have feelings and you do not want to eat them (and it makes you happy) I will support you. Hey, start a blog about it! I will follow it. So will my friend Totes.
‘I’ve always thought that people need to feel good about themselves and I see my role as offering support to them, to provide some light along the way’. Leo Buscaglia